Saturday, November 05, 2005

 

Special Guest and New Fight!

Results of Fight 1:
Matthew: 62.5%
Kevin: 37.5%

Since it's a majority, Matthew gets the first win, but he did not get the two-thirds necessary for a KO (Knockout.)

Kevin has the week off this time, so we've brought in a special guest to fill his largish shoes. Christy will be taking a side this week against Matthew, and they'll be arguing over a topic near and dear to their hearts. It's below - read it and vote!

Watching our wedding video a month after the wedding: Good or Bad?

Christy: It’s your wedding day – a flood of events, a flurry of activity, people everywhere, and enough hairspray and gel to make you forget your name. Before you know it, the ceremony is over, you’ve walked back down the aisle, and mobs of friends and complete strangers are congratulating you all at once. The dancing at the reception has left you a little dizzy, and by the time the day is over you wonder what just happened. Do you remember what the pastor said? Did you catch the time that your groomsman almost passed out? Were you even there to see your mothers cry as they were seated? Did you see the happy couple as they were introduced at the reception? Of course you didn’t see any of those priceless moments. This is exactly why watching your wedding video one month after your wedding is so important.

Matthew: It’s your wedding day – a day that you’ve long awaited. You’ve prayed, prepared, and polished everything from your shoes to your vows. When the day finally comes, it’s just for you and your love. The bride and groom have unique, unmatched perspectives, and each gains special memories from those perspectives. The groom can still picture his bride walking toward him. The bride still remembers waiting in the wings while the grandmothers are seated. These special memories are exactly why you shouldn’t watch the wedding video only a month afterward. The video has the perspective of an attendee – and your perceptions change. Now you have two views that start muddling together, and when you think back to your bride walking down the aisle, you don’t just think of your view – you think of the camera’s view, too. Wedding videos shouldn’t be watched too soon precisely because wedding days are so special.

Christy: Note that Matthew completely avoids mentioning the priceless moments that the bride and groom miss. Yes, the wedding is a special time for you and your beloved, but it’s a time for family and friends to share. Taking the opportunity to view their tears, their joy, their toasts, and their expressions of love will enhance wedding memories. Another reason to view your video a month after your wedding is to share it with others. There will be friends who could not celebrate the wedding with you. Giving them the opportunity to share your joy will bring more special memories.

Matthew: Note that Christy completely avoids the timing issue! A month afterward, memories are still fresh, new – and malleable. Waiting at least a year to view the wedding video allows the memories to permanently set, and makes it extra-special because it brings those memories flooding back instead of altering what you have. Further, the video doesn’t show the bride anything that the groom couldn’t describe to her. Waiting to watch it gives the new couple a chance to work on their communication skills. We saw it in living color the first time – why turn to the grainy magnetic tape so soon?

Christy: My groom couldn’t capture the mothers’ seating. Watching your wedding video after one month of marriage reminds you of the commitment made, refreshes what memories you have and enhances those memories with special moments that you missed while you were waiting outside. Don’t let those memories slip away with time!

Matthew: Although I “couldn’t capture the mother’s seating,” I didn’t need a month-after wedding video viewing to “remind me of the commitment made” to my bride ; ) Memories “slipping away?” The video will be identical in a month OR a year. The personal memories are the ones that need protection!

Vote using the comment function below!

Comments:
Matt narrowly wins this, strongly defending his somewhat suprising view of the issue. I am a bit concerned that certain of the less-important memories (i.e., not of each other) may fade.
 
I don't know. Loyalty demands that I vote with Christy--and I do have to question Matthew's arguments. I think that perhaps he ought to take his wife's rationale into consideration. You see, the bride does not see what the groom sees. She just dedicated her entire life to every detail of the wedding. Her own memories are not the only memories she is concerned about--she wants to be sure that the time she spent preparing for her guests was indeed fruitful. The groom cares only about getting his bride (from what I hear), but the bride spends months agonizing over whether or not she is meeting all of the expectations and desires of her guests. Watching the video a month past the wedding would accomplish two things: 1) the bride could confirm whether her preparations were truly as delightful as she dreamed, and 2) she can re-experience the wedding she mentally multitasked through trying to make sure everything was in place. And realistically, it might just make her want to relive that kiss...
 
Kelly, was that a vote or a no vote?
 
That was a vote in Christy's favor.
 
I don't remember how to log on as matt v. kevin, so I'm just voting as the anonymous guy, but I must say that I will, as the sentimental fool I am, have to hand this one to Christy.

v. Kevin
 
Why even have a video? You have pictures, you have the memories, you have the stories you will hear ever holiday for the next 5 years; so why even have a video?

BTW - that is a vote for neither Tee or Matthew... *smirk*
 
You have to watch it at some point, because let's face it, folks, that floutist was just awesome.
Here's one for Tee. I'm not following my non-commital roommate's bad example.
 
Lee is wrong. I am commital. I am commital to my own opinion.
 
Sorry, Christy, but I'm with DuMee....err, sorry...that's a little ambiguous now...I'm with Matt. ;)
 
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